Reaching the highest level 0f vibration in oneself is made possible by the energy that surrounds. It's not something you necessarily see, but an empathetic response in any given moment. People you choose to be around are meant to elevate your internal frequency, keep it in check, and be a voice of reason. Making someone feel welcome is far more than just being around them. In fact, being physically present is not important in order to attain this sensibility.
It's true, this morning I experienced one of those precious moments. A Couchsurfing host started my day with kind notes and gifts to consume. Without ever meeting face to face, I felt love that members of this home undeniably embody. It's clear to them, and now me, that allowing people to explore letting their guard down is at the core of creating a meaningful relationship.
Growing up is a process. It's becoming aware of the role we play in other people’s lives and theirs in ours. It can be a beautiful thing. In it, there's infinite wonder. We begin to understand that what we do is extremely impactful on those around us. This awareness creates curiosity, and a new level of appreciation for the uniqueness of people grows. With a new set of eyes, we can begin to understand the why behind the people we spend the most time around.
Relationships that were once used to distract ourselves from a lonely reality are now amplifier's of our own values. They rope us in with warm tones of security and awe us with courageous energy to take action on embracing who we're called to be. These are beautiful adventures. We get to discover who we are, lose it, then rediscover all over again. Through these failures we learn what's important. We decide between what we need and don't need as we move forward on our journey.
Does anyone else sacrifice who they are more than they should? I know I do. I do it because I'm a people pleaser. It’s often difficult for me to see someone else in pain to the point where I'll take it all in for myself. I hold onto people and relationships to avoid letting go and hurting someone, even if that means giving up what's important to me. Mr. Strength reminded me just the other day that in order "to become who you want, a part of you must die."
A part of you must die. That's both a profound yet scary thought to let sink in.
Death is agonizing. And this death, is one that we must live through in order to receive it's benefits. It takes being grounded, courageous, self-aware, and an ability to advocate on your own behalf even when it may hurt to do so. Which is a tall order when each of those are hard enough to accomplish on their own.
There’s more to it, though. For one, we chose pain within order because it's somewhat controllable, or so we think. It's a belief that knowing what to expect will reduce the significant and harshly painful puncture we're hoping to avoid. We can't be hurt as bad if we know what's coming, right? Excuses like these make it easier to avoid facing the problem head on. We'll create illusions and a laundry list of potential outcomes as reasons to why