Coaching Corner: The Death of The Dick Head

Dick Head: a person who is an idiot and shows it all too well

We have all seen it before, that “Alpha male” that “leader”, manager or coach using their power and position they have over someone to get their way. Screaming, threatening and deceiving to get their way, regardless of the damage it is doing. Stephen Covey (author of the 7 Habits) would describe this as a Win – Lose method. Keith Ferrazzi (author of Never Eat Alone) would describe it as “the old way to make it”. Jordan Peterson (author of 12 rules for life) would say you’re breaking Rule 10 “Be Precise with your speech” (however I’d argue the person doing this is also breaking the Rule 6 of not having their house in order before they criticize others.) Most would describe it as being a dick head and I’m here to tell you that won’t last, at least not for long. Without buy in you, your company, team or goal are nothing. You need to lead. You need to not be a dickhead. Because its not about you, it never has been.

Marathon vs Sprint:

Want to get somewhere quick? Take the short cut! Use all of your energy up right away! No time for others, you got to go! This is the mindset of the DH and it’s tough to blame him/her (mostly because I’ve been there) They are put in a positive feedback loop, the more they focus on themselves, the faster they go, the better the shortcuts the more success they see. They climb the social rankings. They climb the company ladder. They taste success and they have closed all doors to feedback from people that could show them all their errors. Which leaves them at the top, without growth, without connections, without abilities. It leaves them at the top with their only leadership qualities being yelling, past achievements and anger. Leaving all of your followers, stressed, unsure of why they are following you and subconsciously planning to undermine you in every action they perform. SHOOT! Maybe it’s not about the sprint, maybe it’s about the marathon. Maybe its just me, maybe I just don’t like the sprint, let’s get another opinion on it.

Exactly the Look of Someone You'd Follow and Trust Right?

Baboons and Stress: